I have had many conversations with my children about how the popular definition of humility and meekness is wrong. It’s not about thinking less of yourself, being weak, a pushover, or a martyr. Humility and meekness are great strengths when properly understood and developed.
I found this wonderful definition of humility in a talk called Pride and the Priesthood by Dieter F. Uchtdorf from the October 2010 LDS General Conference:
” How do we become more humble?
It is almost impossible to be lifted up in pride when our hearts are filled with charity. “No one can assist in this work except he shall be humble and full of love.” When we see the world around us through the lens of the pure love of Christ, we begin to understand humility.
Some suppose that humility is about beating ourselves up. Humility does not mean convincing ourselves that we are worthless, meaningless, or of little value. Nor does it mean denying or withholding the talents God has given us. We don’t discover humility by thinking less of ourselves; we discover humility by thinking less about ourselves. It comes as we go about our work with an attitude of serving God and our fellowman.
Humility directs our attention and love toward others and to Heavenly Father’s purposes. Pride does the opposite. Pride draws its energy and strength from the deep wells of selfishness. The moment we stop obsessing with ourselves and lose ourselves in service, our pride diminishes and begins to die.”